Bursting at the Seams

Admittedly, this title could apply to a number of things in my life but today I’m using it in reference to my ward. You see, with 4o YW and about a bizillion primary kids we’ve known that our ward was well on it’s way to splitting. I, myself, have unabashedly been tossing idea after idea into the rumor mill trying to come up with a viable outcome for this inevitable event. I thought I was prepared until the bishop stood up during mutual opening exercises this week to announce the actual meeting where they show you the overhead with the maps and the numbers of families, high priests, etc. As soon as this eventuality became an actuality I started to feel a bit sick to my stomach. This morning that sick feeling turned into tears when I went to my YW Presidency Meeting and found out what the boundaries are on our side of the highway.

I’ve been remotely affected by ward splits but this will be the first time I’ve actually been so invested in a transitioning ward. We’re in the section of the ward that gets combined with some other ward fragments to create a new ward. Today I found out that our fragment isn’t nearly as large as I was hoping and it left me feeling a pretty sad. We have loved and been loved by some of the best people I’ve ever known and it’s depressing to think that in many ways it will be the same ward, we just won’t be in it. Not only does our ward win almost every youth and adult activity in the stake 🙂 but we’re also known for our strength, friendliness and willingness to help out.

As we went over the info this morning I was disappointed to find out that only 3 of our young women would be in the new ward. I don’t anticipate having a calling with the young women again but I was looking forward to seeing at least some of them grow and mature and I’m sad that I won’t get to see these awkward little Mia Maids make their way into Laurels and beyond.
I’m also feeling somewhat helpless as I contemplate the future without the bedrock leaders that have sheperded us so well during the last 2 years. I’m grateful that other wards will contribute great people and I know there is untapped talent around here but I’m not looking forward to leaving this well-oiled machine.

Ritchie and I were the second family to move into this piece of the ward so we’ll now be separated from the people who’ve been our ward family since we got here. I know there will be new friends and new opportunities but we’ll miss the people we’re closest to, the ones we’ve served with, the ones that we’ve known the longest, the ones who welcomed us, gave us callings and helped us be involved. I know that it’s great that we have enough move-ins and new members to create a new ward. And I know eventually our new ward will be great but today I’m wishing that we lived a few miles further south :).


8 thoughts on “Bursting at the Seams

  1. Well, you will just have tor bring these great strengths into your new ward! That was a good post! I think we have all felt that way at times, about things other than ward splits. Its gonna be amazing!

  2. Your post reminded of how I felt when we created Tomball Ward. Lakewood had been so much the same as your ward now is. I never thought it could be the same again. I guess it hasn’t in a lot of ways and yet in so many ways it has been so much more rewarding to see people step up to the bat and take on callings and grow amazingly, and to see the ward grow together. The transition was awkward at first but now this ward family is the favorite I’ve ever had.

  3. We were pretty sad/relieved when our ward split last year, but somewhat unhappy that we were in the portion that created an entirely new ward. I won’t lie and say it was easy, because starting up a primary from NOTHING was really hard, but I have learned a lot. I have also found that with a smaller ward, I have been able to meet, serve with, learn from, and admire people who I otherwise would not have. So, good luck, I’m sure you’ll come to love it, and you’ll be needed.

  4. well, i don’t share your exact same feelings of course, but i know how much splitting wards stinks. i also know that nate and i will have to be doing the whole new ward thing all over again when we get back from india and while i’m excited to be in a normal family ward with older people, i’ll be sad to leave the student ward that we’ve gotten use to. (granted…our only friends were 3 and under, but still…) =)

  5. I know this is a hard adjustment- I’m not keen on ward splits myself. But I do know it will be really good, and you’ll love your new ward just as much. I totally hear you though. 😦Good luck in your new ward! Maybe you can have a new ward party and invite some people over to your house and play get to know you games. Might be fun!

  6. Ward splits are exciting for some people and really hard on others, like children and teenagers. I remember one time when our ward was split, out of a group of 4 little boys that Jacob played with, we were the only ones split off and the other families all remained together. That was really hard for him, and for us, too , because they were our good friends and it became such an effort to get together outside of church.On the other hand, it is rewarding to watch the new ward grow and bond, and especially to see what people can do when they feel needed. It really changes lives. I understand your sadness at losing a ward you loved. It’s a hard adjustment, but somehow I think you’re going to be involved in making the new ward a wonderful place, too. 🙂

  7. When the Parkway ward was created, we were lucky enough to stay in the large piece with most of our friends, but it did take awhile to establish a new ward identity. I was also glad that as a member of the primary presidency that the primary was more manageable. Even though we were sad to leave our friends.

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