Category: Marriage

Marriage Musings

The other day I attended a bridal shower where the honored guest asked everyone to offer a piece of marriage advice.  It is always interesting to stop and consider marriage from the perspective of someone just diving into it.  With every ounce of newlywed…

I married a kind man and other musings on a 20 year relationship

As I mentioned in my “Love Story” Facebook posts a few months back, Ritchie and I went on our first date Valentines Day 1997 which means that we’ve spent the last 20 years cultivating our relationship.   As I look back and reflect on how…

What is Family Council? (Agenda attached)

Holding the space for family council each week breathes life into the home and gives the family and its members room to heal, grow, and become a strong team.

Bodies can heal

I’m telling you this to give you hope because bodies can heal. I have been told (repeatedly) by all manner of educated individuals that this doesn’t happen. I have been told by a small handful that it can. Anything is possible.

Family Council Agenda 4.24.16

…open communication in family council allows us to pool our strengths and help each other…

Family Council Quick Start Agenda & Notes

When beginning a new habit it’s important to start small, be consistent and build some incentive into it.  This Family Council Quick Start Agenda covers the basics and allows you to easily begin your first family council meeting this week. Use this agenda until meeting…

Family Council in Ritchie’s Words

“I don’t blog nor do I write (heck I can hardly read for that matter) so consider this important.  Our family has been working on getting back to it’s A game for a little while now, and I think we are about there (minus…

Space for Grief: Intangibles

Initially I balked at the idea of grieving. Remember we’re talking about infertility here and RJ and I had apparently ordered up the complicated barren variety.   Having witnessed the losses of beautiful lives, both before and after birth, it felt wrong to grieve something…

The Need for Boundaries: Tougher examples

I’m afraid by using recent examples, I may have glided past the giant awkwardness of my first 5 years of trying to navigate boundaries.  The dinner example was from 6 months ago, after years of ample practice with this revised version of marital give…

The Need for Boundaries: Examples

RJ was sitting at the kitchen table when I explained to him that I needed to start saying “No” more.  He was rightfully concerned that our life may have to adjust a bit to accommodate my boundary education.  So far, his willingness to embrace…