Losing Sight of the Trail

The other day we were hiking up in the mountains where the air is clear and the clouds are so close you want to touch them and we lost the trail. We'd stopped to take in some rest and sunshine in a clearing and when we got back up we didn't know which way to go. I don't know about you but I feel like that a lot in life. I'll have a clear direction and then there will be a distraction, a break or a roadblock and the way forward isn't as clear as it was moments before. In life, as I did in this instance, its helpful to take a step back, closely observe your surroundings, look at where you've come from with an eye toward where you want to go and then peer around closely for a way forward. In time a path will appear. Thank goodness because three extra granola bars will only get you so far.

Take Action: Already applied this post to your incredible life dear reader? Great, see you again soon!

If you need help to dive deep, think of a problem you're facing. Go ahead and challenge yourself, choose a tough one. Now think about 3 things you've done or overcome in your past that were hard. What qualities or attributes did you rely on or cultivate to make it through those situations? Write them down. If you can't think of any ask a friend or relative to help you. Were you dedicated, quick thinking? Creative? Faithful? Now figure out how those attributes serve you in this situation and trust that they'll come through for you again. Now building on that sturdy foundation of your own personal growth, look forward to where you want to go and assess what other qualities you need to make it through this specific stretch of life. Do you need patience, ideas, bravery? Whatever it is confidently cultivate it (you can do it!) and let it lead you onward. The path is there you just need to find it again.

With love,

How change comes to me…

I have spent a lot of time in my life, more than I’d like to admit, contemplating how to change other people.  As I am learning to focus my energy on my own development, I feel the truth of these principles and their application to us as individuals…

1. We don’t usually change because someone tells us to, we change because we realize we want to.   In terms of our interactions with others, our relationships evolve and grow and necessarily entail change but often we change to preserve/strengthen the relationship rather than to fulfill an edict.

2. We are more inclined to change when we feel valued, have resources accessible to us and are given the space and time to choose a course of action.

3.  Lasting change occurs when we internalize principles we learn by experimenting with the resources we’ve invested ourselves in.

4.  The process of genuine change can be agonizingly, excruciatingly, and rewardingly slow.

Does this change the way you think of your own development?